Dating a bi polar woman
Thirty years ago it was a term from international relations, describing a situation such as we had during the Cold War where two states, the US and the USSR, had the majority of geopolitical power because they were the only two real players. Is this the right way to describe a personal connection where at least one person has bipolar disorder?Obviously, the dynamics within a bipolar family can be very dramatic and intense.The ideal situation is for everyone to have an accurate diagnosis and be receiving effective treatment, but sadly this is all too rare.Once an episode is over and we are “ourselves again”, coming to terms with our bipolar behavior is very difficult and produces huge shame and sometime a crippling cognitive dissonance when we try to reconcile what happened when manic with how we are when we are well. It is important to carefully examine this self-deception when well again in order to be more likely to recognize when a manic episode is starting.
It is dealt with in more detail in our webpage the bipolar spouse. Non-bipolar spouses are generally more supportive, understanding and tolerant of depression than they are of mania. aren’t these all behaviors that are common manifestations of untreated mania? The implications of the above are that an accurate diagnosis and effective treatment go a long way to relieving the difficulties associated with bipolar relationships.Recently I read a very compelling, evocative essay about bipolar relationships.The writer used the metaphor of a fire in the brain for bipolar, and described the way that spouses, family and friends may all get “burned up” as fuel. Our higher and better self – that idealized version of the self that is the best person we can be and that we all (hopefully) aspire to.It is actually more common than you may think for two people in an intimate relationship to both have bipolar disorder.There is a phenomenon known as “assortative mating” which shows a strong pattern of people with bipolar marrying each other to a statistically disproportionate degree.